Respite isn’t giving up
Most family carers think of themselves as a husband, wife, daughter or son doing what’s needed. But caring is hard on the body and the mind. Doing it without a regular break tends to lead to one place: crisis.
A regular visit from a familiar carer gives you time to rest properly. Time to attend appointments, keep working, see other family members, or sit quietly without being needed.
“I hadn’t slept more than four hours in a row for about eight months. When we eventually arranged for a carer to come in on Wednesday mornings, I used to just sit in the garden. That was enough.”
Signs a family carer may need some support
Signs that the balance has shifted:
- You feel exhausted most of the time, even after sleep.
- You have stopped making plans, because care needs always come first.
- You feel resentful or guilty, or both at the same time.
- Your own health, GP appointments or social contact has dropped away.
- You are irritable or short-tempered with the person you care for, and then feel terrible about it.
- You haven’t had a conversation about something other than care in a while.
None of this makes you a bad carer. It makes you a carer who needs support.
What respite visits involve
Respite care from Helping at Home is visiting care, planned around the routines of the person being cared for. Light domestic support is included where it’s agreed in the care plan.
How often and how long
Respite can follow a weekly pattern or cover set times. Common arrangements:
- A few mornings or afternoons a week, freeing up predictable time.
- Cover for a specific shift or working day.
- An extended visit or overnight stay while a family carer rests, attends something, or is away.
We do not require a minimum contract. Start with what is useful and adjust from there.
Respite can also travel with you: we can send a carer to a lodge at Center Parcs Sherwood Forest.
Familiar carers, not a different person each time
If a different carer turns up each week, a person with dementia becomes anxious. A parent who resists care in the first place digs in further. We aim to give each client a core team of up to four carers. Read more about how we keep care consistent.
Costs and funding for respite
Respite care is charged at our standard visiting care rates. You can pay privately. Direct Payments are an option if the council has assessed the person as eligible. A carer’s assessment may identify support you are entitled to. It comes through Nottinghamshire County Council, or Lincolnshire County Council for Grantham and North Hykeham. Full detail on costs and funding.
What happens next
Call us on 01636 646915 or request a care assessment. We’ll confirm availability and arrange a visit.
We provide respite care in Newark, Grantham, Bingham, Retford, Ollerton, Southwell, Collingham and North Hykeham, and the surrounding villages.
